The Truth About Letting Go – Why We Hold Onto Old Patterns & How to Finally Release Them
The Truth About Letting Go
Why we hold onto old patterns, and how to release them.
Hello Awakening Souls,
Letting go sounds simple.
Just release it, right? Move on.
But if it were that easy, you wouldn’t still feel like you're stuck in the same patterns—again.
We hold onto what hurts not because we want to suffer…
But because our nervous system equates the familiar with safety.
And that goes way deeper than logic.
🔍 Why We Hold Onto What Hurts
(…even when we’re so ready to be free.)
We don’t cling to old relationships, jobs, or beliefs because they’re good for us.
We cling because part of us learned that safety = sameness.
Letting go feels like death to the part of your brain that’s wired for survival.
So we hold on.
We try to “fix” it.
We make it our fault.
We stay.
And that’s not because we’re weak.
It’s because we’ve been trained to stay loyal to pain—especially when it’s wrapped in love.
🛑 What Holding On Is Really Costing You
The weight of emotional suppression in your body
Chronic overthinking, anxiety, shame
Disconnect from your own intuition
Relationships where you over-function and under-receive
A life that’s technically fine… but nowhere near aligned
Holding on isn’t keeping you safe.
It’s keeping you stuck.
🌟 5 Proven Tools to Actually Let Go
Letting go isn’t just a mindset. It’s a nervous system shift.
Here are a few practices I teach and personally use with clients:
1. Body Code
Clears trapped emotional energy from the body using applied kinesiology and energetic mapping.
→ Link to Dr. Bradley Nelson’s work
2. EFT (Tapping)
Interrupts stuck emotional patterns by tapping on meridian points while naming truth.
→ Intro to EFT with The Tapping Solution
3. Breathwork
Your breath shifts your body from fear to presence. It’s instant access to your intuitive voice.
→ Try this: 4–2–8 breathing or a guided breath session on my YouTube channel.
4. Somatic Release
Shake. Stretch. Sigh. Cry. Move the emotion out of your body so your mind can let go too.
5. Guided Meditation + NLP
Use subconscious reprogramming to change the story you’re living from. Rewire the emotional loop.
💛 My Personal Turning Point
I wasn’t sold. But I was exhausted—and open.
So I gave breathwork a try.
I could leave a situation…
But the next would always feel strangely familiar.
Different person. Same pattern.
It wasn’t until I started releasing the stored trauma in my body that things shifted.
Not overnight. But definitely for good.
🌱 Letting Go Is a Practice. Not a Performance.
Letting go isn’t about weakness—it’s about wisdom.
It’s about honoring the version of you that clung to survive—while choosing a future that’s based on trust, not trauma.
Letting go isn’t about losing.
It’s about making space for what’s truly meant for you.
And sometimes, it’s not about becoming someone new—
It’s about finally releasing who you were told you had to be.
✨ Ready to Go Deeper?
🌀 Join us in The Awakening Circle—my private Facebook group for truth, healing, and soul reclamation
🎙️ Don’t miss the Sovereignty Rising podcast launch on April 18 → Spotify, Apple, and YouTube
No one’s coming to save you—because the healer you’ve been waiting for… is you.
Dawn xo
Your Contrarian Soul Guide
🌟 And if you’re ready to take your transformation deeper, come join us inside The Awakening Circle. Let’s do this work together.
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