Are You Hiding? 5 Hidden Signs You’re Out of Alignment
Are You Hiding?
5 Hidden Signs You’re Out of Alignment
Hello Awakening Souls,
Have you ever felt like something in your life was just... off?
Maybe you’re doing all the right things — checking the boxes, taking care of everyone, and showing up the way you “should.” On the outside, your life looks fine — maybe even great. But inside? You’re exhausted. You’re disconnected. You’re wondering, “Is this all there is?”
I get it, because this was me.
On the outside, I had what most people would call the perfect life: a beautiful home, a loving husband, nice cars, vacations, two kids (and a French bulldog to round it out), and a successful career.
But even with all of that, something felt off. Like I was wearing a mask — showing up as the version of myself that other people expected, not the version that felt real.
It took me years to realize I wasn’t broken. I was just living out of alignment with my true self.
And if you’re reading this, there’s a good chance you might be, too.
Here’s the truth: Living out of alignment doesn’t mean you’re failing — it means you’re ready for change.
Let’s talk about the 5 hidden signs you may be out of alignment, and how to take your first steps back to YOU.
1. You Say “Yes” When You Mean “No”
Let me guess — you’re the “reliable one.”
The person everyone can count on to show up, say yes, and make life easier for everyone else.
And maybe it used to feel good — being the helper, the giver, the “easy one.” But over time, that yes starts to feel heavy. You feel resentful, drained, and invisible.
Why It Happens:
You’ve been taught that saying “no” makes you difficult, unlikable, or selfish. So you say “yes” to keep the peace — even when it costs you your energy, your time, and your joy.
How to Realign:
Start small. The next time someone asks for your time or energy, pause. Take a breath and ask yourself:
“What do I really want here?”
If the answer is no, practice saying it simply and kindly:
“I’m not available for that.”
“I won’t be able to commit to that right now.”
No explanation. No apology. Just your truth.
2. You’re Exhausted (But It’s Not Just Physical)
You’re tired all the time, but no amount of sleep fixes it.
That’s because this exhaustion isn’t just physical — it’s emotional and spiritual.
When you’re out of alignment, you’re constantly performing — pretending you’re fine, forcing a smile, and ignoring the quiet voice inside you that says, “This isn’t me.”
Why It Happens:
You’ve been living on autopilot, doing what you “should” instead of what feels right. Over time, that performance drains you completely.
How to Realign:
Start with one small moment of stillness every day.
Close your eyes.
Take 3 deep breaths.
Ask yourself, “What do I need right now?”
It might be rest. It might be saying no. It might be a moment of silence. Whatever it is, honor it.
3. You’ve Lost Touch with What You Really Want
When someone asks, “What do YOU want?” you freeze.
You’ve spent so much time taking care of others’ needs that you’ve forgotten your own.
It’s like you’ve been following a script someone else wrote for your life, but you can’t remember the last time you felt joyful, fulfilled, or free.
Why It Happens:
You’ve been living in “default mode” — following routines, obligations, and other people’s expectations instead of living with intention.
How to Realign:
Start with small decisions and ask yourself:
“If I trusted myself fully, what would I choose?”
This could be as simple as deciding what to eat for dinner or how to spend your afternoon. Over time, those small choices will help you reconnect with what YOU want.
4. You Feel Resentful (But You’re Not Sure Why)
Resentment doesn’t show up out of nowhere. It’s a sign that your boundaries are being crossed — or that you never set them in the first place.
If you’re feeling resentful toward your partner, your family, or even your friends, take a closer look:
Where are you over-giving?
Where are you saying yes when you mean no?
Where are you abandoning your own needs to “keep the peace?”
Why It Happens:
You’re afraid of conflict or rejection, so you keep quiet. But every time you betray yourself to please others, resentment grows.
How to Realign:
Practice one small boundary today.
Say no without explaining.
Ask for help without apologizing.
Take time for yourself without feeling guilty.
Boundaries aren’t walls — they’re invitations for healthier, more honest relationships.
5. You Feel Like You’re “Playing a Role”
Do you ever feel like you’re performing in your own life? Like you’re showing up as the version of yourself that other people want to see, not the version that feels real?
This happens when you’re disconnected from your truth.
Why It Happens:
Somewhere along the way, you learned that your real self wasn’t “good enough.” So you put on the mask — the good one, the chill one, the strong one — and hoped it would keep you safe.
How to Realign:
Start by asking yourself:
“Who am I when no one is asking me to be anything for them?”
Then take one bold, honest action today. Speak your truth, even if it’s messy. Show up as YOU, even if it’s uncomfortable.
Ready to Come Back to Yourself?
If any of these signs resonated with you, it’s not a coincidence. It’s a wake-up call.
You’re not broken. You’re not failing. You’re just out of alignment — and that means you’re ready to come back home to yourself.
If you’re ready to start that journey, join us in The Awakening Circle — our private Facebook community where you’ll find support, tools, and real conversations about healing, boundaries, and authentic living.
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I see the Light in you, and it is brilliant!
Brightest of blessings,
Dawn xo
The Awakening Light
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