How to Reclaim Your Power: 3 Steps to Rebuild Self-Trust and Live Authentically
How To Reclaim Your Power
3 steps to Rebuild Self-Trust and Live Authentically
Hello Awakening Souls,
Have you ever felt like you’ve lost yourself — piece by piece — in relationships, work, or even your daily life?
You’re not alone. Many of us give away our power without realizing it, leaving us stuck in self-doubt, people-pleasing, and a constant search for approval. But here’s the truth: You can rebuild self-trust, reclaim your power, and live authentically — starting today.
For years, I gave my power away without even realizing it. I would say yes when I wanted to say no. I’d bend over backward to keep the peace, avoid judgment, and make sure I was liked. But underneath it all, I felt invisible, disconnected, and honestly, resentful.
Everything started to shift when I realized this: Your power isn’t gone — it’s waiting for you to reclaim it.
Matthew Hussey says, “Loving yourself isn’t a feeling. It’s an approach. It’s a job.” Reclaiming your power starts with loving yourself enough to show up for YOU, even when it feels uncomfortable.
Let’s talk about the 3 ways we give our power away and how to take it back, one small step at a time.
3 Ways We Give Away Our Power
Ignoring Your Needs: How Self-Abandonment Steals Your Power
Every time you ignore your needs to keep the peace, you send a message to yourself: “Your feelings don’t matter.” Over time, this leaves you feeling invisible — even to yourself.
Self-abandonment shows up in small ways:
Agreeing to things you don’t want to do.
Pushing your emotions down because they feel inconvenient.
Avoiding your own desires because they don’t fit into someone else’s plan.
I used to think that putting myself last made me “easygoing” and “lovable.” But in reality, it made me invisible — not just to others, but to myself.
✨ How to Reclaim Your Power:
Pause: When faced with a decision, ask yourself: “What do I need right now?”
Honor Yourself: Take one small action that puts your needs first, even if it feels uncomfortable.
Repeat Daily: The more you practice, the stronger your sense of self becomes.
2. The People-Pleaser Trap: How Saying Yes Steals Your Authenticity
You say yes because it’s easier than saying no. You don’t want to disappoint anyone. You don’t want to feel guilty. But every “yes” that doesn’t feel true is a quiet “no” to yourself.
This was a big one for me. I’d agree to things that drained me — invitations, tasks, even favors — just to avoid conflict. But deep down, I’d feel resentful and exhausted.
✨ How to Reclaim Your Power:
Start with small no’s: Skip the event you don’t want to attend. Decline the extra task at work.
Practice saying: “No, thank you.”
Remember: Your time and energy are precious, and protecting them is an act of self-respect.
3. Stop Over-Explaining: Rebuild Self-Trust by Owning Your Choices
Have you ever caught yourself saying:
“I can’t because I’m really busy with…”
“I’m sorry, but…”
Every time you over-explain, you’re telling yourself that your decisions aren’t valid unless someone else approves.
✨ How to Reclaim Your Power:
The next time you set a boundary, practice stopping after your first sentence.
Example: Instead of saying, “I can’t make it because I have this and this going on,” just say: “I’m not available for that.”
Let the silence sit. Watch how powerful it feels to stand in your truth.
The Surprising Truth About Self-Trust
Here’s something I didn’t understand until recently: Self-trust isn’t built through empty affirmations.
A 2009 study by psychologists Joanne V. Wood and her team found that repeating positive affirmations — like “I am worthy” — can actually backfire for people with low self-esteem. Instead of building trust and confidence, those affirmations can feel fake and create more negative thoughts.
Why? Because when your actions don’t align with your words, it creates an internal conflict. Your mind knows the difference between what you say and what you actually do.
Self-trust is built by following through on your promises, even the small ones.
✨ Start here: Make a micro-promise so small you can’t fail. For example:
“I’ll drink a glass of water when I wake up tomorrow.”
Prep the glass tonight, add a slice of lemon, and set it beside your sink.
Then follow through. Each small win sends a powerful message: “I can trust myself.”
Why Does This Matter?
Reclaiming your power isn’t just about setting boundaries or saying no — it’s about reconnecting with your true self.
It’s about stepping off the hamster wheel of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-doubt, and realizing:
You don’t have to earn your worth. You already have it.
You’re allowed to take up space.
You deserve to live a life that feels true to YOU.
When you begin to honor yourself, listen to your intuition, and rebuild self-trust, you don’t just take back your power — you take back your life.
Your Next Step: Reclaim Your Power Today
If this message resonates with you, take the next step with me.
🎥 Watch my latest YouTube video where I dive deeper into these 3 steps and share actionable ways to start rebuilding your self-trust today.
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✨ Drop a comment below: Which of these 3 ways resonates with you the most right now? I’d love to hear your thoughts and cheer you on.
I see the Light in you, and it is brilliant!
Brightest of blessings,
Dawn xo
The Awakening Light
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